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Whether you are currently in a relationship or single, then ‘you might want to experience more love, sex and fun in relation to a boyfriend / partner / husband / wife (then girlfriend). Truly to love and be loved is a wonderful gift that can not be replaced to something else in life.

The love between you and any children can be just as big and important as compared to a girlfriend, yes for some people it may be the greatest, and if you have experienced such failures associated with lovers, yes you can love your children perceived as the only completely safe, secure, love in the world. Love for his children is and must obviously be something other than love between 2 adults. Especially for the children’s sake it is good that the adults are careful not to confuse the two needs for love together. The more parents seek to recoup the need to share the love grow, the more free the children to live their lives and not on a subconscious level, taking care that the parent – while offering parent more love to give ‘kids.

Consider for a moment:

• What would happen if you actually said yes to another man – did you heeeeeelt to your / a girlfriend?

We humans have a complex nature and conflicting needs. We need cohesion, peace and love on the one hand and simultaneously, we need freedom, individualism and change on the other side. Some of you might rejoice and be really glad to give you all the way, dancing on the table and bubbling with delight, or perhaps be nice warm and soft-hearted and experience peace and strength?! And while there may be something in you that resists, gets scared, uncomfortable or claustrophobic “let me get away.” This is true for many people so completely inside, but often at an unconscious level. Typically it becomes that there is anything wrong with the (potential) girlfriend (s) or relationship. It can be done even after you have been together for many years.

The more you have missed to love and be loved – the greater the discomfort may be in the vicinity, by allowing yourself to experience love. When you have fulfilled your need for love and closeness – then relax the body and psyche of – and so can the pain of the old want or the bad experience get room to turn up! This applies even if you have not noticed any missing or thought you had put a lid on (which is something other than to process and get things done) – we humans have many different defense mechanisms that can prevent us from feeling our feelings into medium, they can get to trip up the contact and love to yourself and to others.

There are various reasons for resistance to giving himself up to love and be loved:

• The most common reason is that the former have been injured and / or witnessed the not-loved or not-good-enough: typically a pattern formed in childhood and moves into adulthood. For example if you have had bad experiences with a close relationship, it can be ex-girlfriends, parents or other persons who have been important to you. It may be you have been overlooked or not seen as you was that you have been criticized, been treated badly mentally and / or physically, may have been abandoned or sent away for a period or permanently, or you may have lost one of its loved ones by an illness or death, and there has not been addressed properly grief

• Many people are afraid to give herself to a boyfriend basically out of fear of losing oneself. For an American book title, “Do I abandon myself to be loved by you?” The answer is a resounding no. Love has nothing to do with giving up themselves – quite the opposite, so it’s just about being yourself. If you do not show your girlfriend, you are also fully behind the masks – then you will never feel completely loved! The trick is finding the balance where you are resting in yourself and stand by your needs and also meet you in your boyfriend’s world and to some extent, satisfy its needs – to the extent where you feel joy and love at it: as soon you move over to make things out of duty or fear of consequences such that your boyfriend gets angry or sad – yes you have given up something of yourself – and that is poison to both your self-esteem and your relationship. It will also cause you albeit unconsciously think your boyfriend owes you anything.

• Another common reason to have resistance to indulge in a love relationship is a lack of positive role models. Perhaps you are disillusioned about relationships from her own life and / or others. Parents were divorced or perhaps had a relationship with each other, where love disappeared from sight in the form of criticism, conflicts, coldness, infidelity, indifference, lack of care and intimacy and the like. In previous generations, couples often work community more than a place where people cultivated and nurtured love. This kind of relationship is still fairly common, although conditions in the present largely dissolves when one or both do not want the daily grind and lack of spark more …

• A third reason is probably more common than we realize. This is where the instinctive nervous system that controls bodily survival and reproduction (autonomic nervous system), has come out of self-regulation. This can happen if you have been exposed to events that have been too much, too fast, too early (shock trauma) – that was too overwhelming, which is a blockage in this part of the nervous system. Usually in the form of both the brake and accelerator are depressed simultaneously. This means that you can get harder to handle situations similar to deadlock example, a regular partner or a partner who does not clearly express in words and deeds that is the only one (has shock trauma, can become more vigilant For example jealous). It may also mean that one can have a tendency to do (emotionally) dramas – that you unconsciously seeking great intensity, basically in order to feel alive.

Ways to give you more up anyway

Although you may have resistance to experience love in relationship with a girlfriend, so there are various things you can do to make it happen anyway. As a prince in the tale, which shall only be through various hardships before he gets the princess and half the kingdom. You can for example

• Use both the main and friends to consider: is this good girlfriend for me. What are the objective facts? Is there agreement between actions and words? Sometimes you can not until quite know whether it is the right partner when you’re partway into the relationship and first love is about to evaporate. The typical intersection is about 3 months and 1 year.
• Use your courage to choose love, although it may feel risky: Where Nothing ventured – nothing gained (do not wait on another “liberate” you … unless you are VERY patient!)
• Use your head to discover what are your reasons to resist intimacy and love (protect yourself), any talking. with others about it. What are your stories and experiences and what conclusions / beliefs have provided you with these? Take possibly some new, more constructive decisions
• Ask yourself if you encounter resistance to devote yourself to a girlfriend: “what’s the worst that can happen to me right here?” Remember you are an adult, and probably more skills now. I love life, there are no guarantees best strategy is to handle things as they come. A refusal to do such evil only when it means that you deny yourself – or if you think the other is the only way you can experience the love of
• Be aware of your reactions and actions. Allow yourself to feel the (old) feelings and possible. resistance, but do not let them control your behavior – indulge anyway
• And remember: give yourself “pat” for every step you take – you might be out on new territory!
• Seek doctor. therapy to complete the past and learn new things, so you can become even better able to live your life right now and experience love fully – whether you’re single and want a girlfriend or you’re in a relationship. Your boyfriend and you can also get professional help together to cultivate the love and spark to each other. It is somewhat easier to maintain and enhance a good relationship, than to have to revive a (half) dead.

In a love relationship, you are vulnerable and do not complete check of everything – it’s the cool and sometimes it is hard!

Live while you do it – Love while you dare!

After several weeks of loans we discover that there are only read a few pages. We are then in various other ways to create a bridge between two worldviews and ends perhaps to conclude that if only we respect each other’s outlook, then it is to live with, even though we only share certain broad ideals that love is the most important thing for us both. Although we thus renouncing to be understood by one of our closest, so it is most common that we still harbour a desire to happen, then he or she is approaching our outlook on life and maybe even end up give us right in that instance. is life after death, reincarnation and divine forces that can intervene in life.

Imagine being without internal sensing

Why is it so difficult to bridge the gap between a spiritual and not a spiritual outlook? And why is it in most cases not very likely that our fellow human or close family member ends up sharing our outlook?

At first we thought maybe it was a matter of reading the same literature or to be convinced, by the same good arguments that perhaps his time was to get ourselves to go in for a spiritual worldview. But when it comes to a kind of spiritual understanding of life that not only includes a spiritual worldview, but also an openness to the divine forces, internal vibrations and the potential for soul intrusion, then difficulties in bridging best understood if we live ourselves into following situations:

1st Imagine that you have a form of consciousness that is focused towards the outer material world, which is almost exclusively dominated by the brain’s thinking and personal feelings and reactions to life. Based on this awareness, you are invited to the various spiritual contexts in which you want to understand because these relationships are very important for a spouse, partner or close friend.

In a positive attempt to understand you now participating in a meditation that guides a leader in a local spiritual center. You will be asked to close your eyes, make you calm and to feel the heart center. You will be asked to listen to the music and let it make you deeper into the heart of consciousness. You feel as also some relaxation, you feel that the mind becomes calmer and you can follow how the body becomes relaxed. But you may not notice that there is a heart chakra. You may not notice that there is something especially vivid in the middle of the chest area. You may not notice that the music takes you inward toward something beyond your personal world, you feel just what the music might remind you of your own personal universe. You may experience the music as beautiful as touching and as a sedative, but you get no feeling that it contains a vibration that comes from another world.

When the meditation becomes freely about your experience, so are you to give the impression that the music was lovely and it was soothing, but you get the impression that your spiritual nominated friend or partner has experienced it as if music has its own inner life that comes from a world that not only is his personality own feelings. You might not mind to recognize that there may be internal worlds, etc., but you just can not see anything but what music does to you and your body!

2nd Imagine that you are in a continued positive attitude in a group healing. Again, you experience the music as beautiful and soothing and as a means to relax and just enjoy being in the place to shop. You still feel that there is a special life in the music that comes from the inner worlds. You still feel that there are angels present. You still do not feel that you have a heart that can feel a universal flow of healing love, like the others apparently feel. You may find that your body responds to relaxation, so it feels incredibly heavy and relaxed after healing. And maybe you have wondered about that at the end of the healing began to hurt in the sternum straight out of the physical heart. But you can not translate what you saw around the physical heart of what the other tells of the healing, where they apparently have experienced a so-called heart chakra was living where they said they felt God’s love or felt that there were angelic beings who healed here and there in them. You also can not relate to being healed into the aura or internal objects, because all you feel is the physical body, and whatever may happen in your brain and your physical senses. Again, you tell your partner or close friend that it was a wonderfully relaxing experience, but you feel compelled to hide it, as the healer and the other participants in group therapy talking about is beyond your experience. You then begin to wonder about the other just projecting a spiritual worldview in as explanations for feelings of relaxation and home comfort: Are the Angels, the inner light of universal love, the heart chakra and the inner bodies only in their projections, or is it me who are so poor that I lack the ability to sense what the others apparently senses and experience?

3rd As a last effort to understand you go with a so-called insights. You got the impression that there is now screwed up so much of the energies that everyone can feel something. Again, do not you sit next to your friend or partner, close your eyes and realigns you to what will happen now. Again, listen to beautiful music and seek to follow guidance to label heart center and to use your inner senses. You reach the normal state of being relaxed and enjoying the music, but when you senses inward, the senses, just what happens in your body. You will then be asked to send light to the world or perhaps a particular problem area in the world. You sympathize with the idea, and you think it is positive that so many can gather in a good intention to help the world. You can also imagine an area in the world that you would like to help, but you have no experience of that actually flows through you or something from you! To open, maybe your eyes and see other players seem completely rapt and deeply concentrated, as if they are really experiencing what is being described by the service manager, so you close the eyes again to feel for whether you can feel the healing love flows through you, or if you stand with light beings somewhere else on Earth, or that nature is being alive and sacred. Again, you’ll feel your body respond by being relaxed, so you decide to simply imagine that the group is doing, helps the world, and in addition you will just enjoy music for a moment in music you may experience that the body becomes very hot, and it is as if the press on the sternum in front of the heart. You will then want to happen something more that you feel that something is flowing through you that you see colors that you see angels or that you hear God speak in your home, but none of this happens. And when the service is done, you just tell that the music was wonderful and that you believe that the group does something that in some way is beneficial.

After this third attempt, you must ask yourself the following question: “Should I trust my partner or a close friend’s experience, or do I trust my own experience? If my own experience is the objective understanding of what has happened, then my partner or friend be the victim of a form of projection or hallucination. This is possible, and while I must admit that he / she daily works very normal, and I must admit that the people who come into the group, also makes a positive impression on me. But if they’re right, why can not I see anything? Missing I really the ability to perceive inner energies, inner worlds and inner beings? I lack a heart? I lack the ability to feel universal love? Missing me one whole floor in my consciousness? Missing I in fact half of the human potential such as the ability to inner perception, intuition, ability, the ability to experience God or the ability to transcend my own ego? If the latter is true, then I’m not really just a poor man, but I’m also only half a man! What must surely be my conclusion? If I do not have to live with the feeling of only being half and the feeling of being far behind compared to my friend or partner, then I must conclude that I’m good enough, as I am that kind of consciousness that I represent are just as valuable as the other kind of consciousness, and that the second form of consciousness indeed has some advantages, but it’s not necessarily reflect a larger and objective reality.

When I assumed this conclusion looks a little in my partner’s or friend’s books, I can see that they are all written by people who believe that they experience a different reality than I do. Since I do not personally experience this reality, so it remains for me theories. Therefore, these theories do not come alive for me. Therefore they do not arouse anything in me. And so I just put them on a shelf, saying “maybe and maybe not.”

What is spirituality?

In most cases the wishes of our partners and close friends are likely to understand us, follow us and to share some of our exposures, but the core of it is difficult to bridge the gap between a material and a spiritual world view is that the spiritual world only works enrich, uplifting and inspiring, if we have an inner sensation or an inner recognition of parts of this world! It is basically chakra to the openness of internal vibrations, which determines whether we let us go against the spiritual literature to more meditative practices, against participation in spiritual training and education and against light work. No man can with his willingness to open the inner senses, before the time is right. But when the time comes, opens in reality an entirely new story in mind. Then it is as if the inner memory of the spiritual realities begin to take hold, and / or on the internal senses in relation to vibration and inner knowledge becomes activated. It is only when inner senses open, we can see that during meditation, healing and lystjenester is a vibration here that not only belong to our personal universe, but which is part of the inner worlds, inner realms and more developed beings.

Our spirituality is natural for us when we are through our inner senses experience that divinity exists as peace, fullness, tenderness and love. From then on, the other half of our consciousness is awakened to life, and from then on, a still more extensive exploration of the spiritual start. For then, our inner senses gradually deeper and deeper range of vibrations and emanations kingdoms whose source is so transcendent and so divine, that life and love can belive us, transform us and make us partakers of the universal life.

The effects of this opening to consciousness the second half can be a peace that our close do not understand that we can have. It can be a joy that gives so much profit and so strong an ability to cope with difficulties and challenges that this ability can not arise from personality psychology. It may be an ability to heal, inspire and help others not just from the courses and programs we have participated in. It may be an idealism and enthusiasm for the light, which is incomprehensible to those who only know consciousness outer half, which is dependent on what personality’s thoughts can think of. It may be an ability for optimism on behalf of mankind, providing a vision of the future that is incomprehensible for those who pay attention to what happens for negative events on the world scene. And it can be an uncompromising perseverance in a particular life commitment that can be admired but not understood by the person who can not experience an enrich the spiritual power emanating from God.

One conclusion of our small study is that we can not blame others if they do not share our perception of life or life commitment. Most of our closest would really like to understand us better, but must recognize that it arouses so little resonance in them when they hear us say that they will soon start to get bored.

Another conclusion is that we should be glad for the riches that come into our lives now, as our inner senses are awakened, and as we feel connected with the deeper consciousness live streams, inspirations and exposures.

There remains then the questions: Are those who do not share the inner sensations riches less developed, and we can not expect that at some time experience the same? To deal with the first question we must seek to understand what spirituality really is. Spirituality can be defined as the natural ability to live out the spirit and the soul lives. According to this definition, we are spiritual in the degree to which we are able to transcend personality boundary ring and being engaged in the larger life purpose and tasks. No matter what worldview we might have, and whatever inner experiences we may have, we are not spiritual if we are only concerned with our own personality, experiences, pleasures and needs. Conversely, spirituality be independent of inner experience and theoretical understandings of life, the essence of true spirituality is to forget oneself to help, support and benefit a larger whole, without being motivated by the desire for personal gain. In this understanding, people with a spiritual view of life, and people who do not share this view in principle even if their deeds and daily life attitude reveals the same degree of self-forgetfulness and the commitment to do good in the world. In fact, many so-called spiritually minded people in long phases more self-centered than some of their close friends or family members, because that can easily cause a form of distorted or glamorous spirituality that increase self-centering and reduces the actual benefit in the world.

Alternating phases of inner openness and closedness

The answer to the question of whether people who do not have the ability to inner perception, can easily get this ability can be read as follows: Skills to inner perception can be opened and closed depending on what the higher consciousness wants to be the focus of a particular incarnation or in a particular life stage. In the general picture is a tendency that when to grow in the solar plexus stage, cast in previous incarnations inner perception. This inner perception could in long phases of development be directed towards the etheric life in nature and lower astral life with its spiritual beings and elemental former. After casting off, it is because we must individualiseresog train to be focused in the concrete world. As a rule opens first again when we approach the first initiation. This new openness heart center begins to awaken, and thus connects us back to the inner life, but now at a higher level.

At this higher level gives us the ability to sense the higher astral plane peace and joy of life and the understandings and ideals in the mental life-worlds, which breaks personality narrow ideology. While this long-term development cycle between inner and outer consciousness, there are smaller cycles, which can be exchanged between whether to focus on inner or outer perception sensation. In practice this means that even when we are approaching the

1st inauguration, the new inner sensation usually begins, there may be periods in which we have closed more or less of this perception, to be more specific and individual in our consciousness.

One way to become concrete, individual may be that we must become less naive in our inner openness, and that we must develop a broader foundation to withstand us in the physical world and to convey the spiritual in a way which can be integrated in human civilization. It is quite common for people in such a small cycle might want to deal with the spiritual at the same time that they feel unable to understand it or experience it from within. In these cases, the inner spirituality is usually manifested by a relatively selfless and harmonious living. In many cases where one of our nearest can not follow us, it turns out simultaneously that this man possesses an excellent ability to operate at the physical level, to tackle difficult situations and to be able to break through in human world, where the man who easily by spiritual experiences, is powerless and may become disoriented or lose the ability to create a change in the concrete life. In such cases we often find the value by not being too inward in his life experience, and we get on the trail of the two forms of consciousness in a way, just many strengths and preferably should be complementary. This mutual complement, we find often in relationships.

An even smaller cycle of the same species may occur within each incarnation, where for many people it is common to have a spiritual awakening in childhood and early youth, while the next phase of frequent 16-18 years to mid-30s is marked by the need to develop a greater ability to be focused on the physical, to meet challenges in human universe and to have a solid base of common sense and practical logic. In fact the best form of spirituality a state of consciousness that is built on top of skills as specific logic, common sense and a capacity to cope with the physical world’s complex challenges. About an inner sensation, and thus a kind of inner spiritual awakening takes place in a third phase (after the mid-30s) in a real incarnation, depends on the purpose for which the soul has laid for that incarnation. Sometimes there is an almost automatic revival after life’s center (about 35 years old), sometimes there is an awakening of the inner perception of the profound crises that awakens the heart chakra to life, but in many cases it is not a part of a trajectory that this kind of spiritual awakening must happen in that incarnation.

Behind the understanding of alternating phases between internal perception and external perception is a basic spiritual understanding that any expression of life just little justification: It is just as accomplished and divine being materialistic committed and focused in the real world as it is to be spiritually prepared with a focus in the inner worlds. It is basically the deity itself, which unfolds in a precise account of how much of the total divine expression of a certain planet, there must be focused in what kind of consciousness. This means that all of human civilization needs a precise balance between the various ingredients of consciousness that we each represent. But it also means that these balances are changing, as the total life on Earth has the necessary experience and are ready to face experience. In practice this means that we can train to see any man as an equal part of the total divinity on earth. When it dawns on us in its depth, let us hope that our immediate need to change in the same direction as ourselves, and we will celebrate the qualities that others express as partakers of life’s overall trajectory.

It builds up perspective, and it helps one to maintain perspective when you get in trouble – or when you get drunk with joy. It builds a kind of automatic reaction – a spiritual one, mind you.

The new time must naturally create new mantra-like statements that fit the time. We need mantras, which is about consciousness liberation without religious affiliation.

I accept that coming – I let go of that which is

This is about saying yes to life more and no less to life.
To let life flow through one and put as few obstacles as possible.
To fail to control their lives and instead meet it with confidence.
And it is not to be tempted by the beauty and deterred by the ugly.

It’s also about being present here and now – where else?
Too often, people identified with their thoughts and emotions, which are states, they go a long way by themselves create and do not necessarily have anything to do with reality. And when you are not present in the middle of the stream of life, you are easily caught by his own ego’s fears, desires, beliefs, etc.

Mantra takes account of people’s identification with their ego. We must do something! Change requires self-accountability. We can no longer put it all in the hands of God.
It also points transitiveness (which few people care to be reminded that it is plenty to see themselves in the mirror in the morning). And it helps one into the present (which in turn is one that today’s positive performances – since one can hardly do realize that the price for the moment, both past and future).
The statement gives perspective and wakefulness, and the trainer devotion. And this devotion is a quality attached to the heart, which is necessary in every spiritual process. But devotion is provocative for every ego – for one could not lose himself?
The mantra is also about process, liquid and movement. It is meditation, freedom and pure consciousness. It gives respect for life, and helps them in the stream of life.
This mantra offers a “crack”, understood as the possibility of a leap into a higher consciousness dimension.

The mantra is about a crown chakra perspective. The crown chakra has no past or future. There is always in the moment. But when the ego lives suspended between the past (the good old days or bitter regret) and future (shuttles between anxiety and hope), and there must of course also work with it from time to time.

How to use this mantra-like statements?
It fits in consciousness, where it forms a rhythm or vibratory background. It can be used advantageously in connection with the breath, where you accept the breath and let go of the breath.

Meditation on this sentence is a true friend in need. Instead of falling into the thoughts running in circles and emotions that tear in the stomach and heart, one can in a crisis, stay upright and centered to accommodate it in his consciousness. This is true in meditation as well as an underlying vibration in concrete everyday chores.
And when something exceedingly beautiful and pleasing, it is wiser to look at it and let it flow through him, rather than identifying with it and bind to it. Any binding causes alertness decreases and the intensity of consciousness dollars.

I accept it coming – I let go of that which is. This is a mantra for contemporary people. Do not think that fear or hope, as this consumes energy and thus provides less hassle in the concrete situation.

The mantra is a bardo mantra. It is good in all life transitions. When the wind changes direction when moving from one phase of his life to another. It is also useful when you must die – or for that matter, when you are seated at the deathbed of someone you love.

Tie you at no, not even your own life. For there is no such thing as your own life. There is only the life that goes through you – right now.

Consciousness slips effortlessly from one phase to another
from incarnation to incarnation,
if we allow it:
Like a snake changing him
as a bee flies to the next flower,
like the sun covered by a cloud
to instantly see clearly again.

Life is a stream of light, a pulse, a consciousness.
We are only the blades of grass that are affected,
while living snake crawling through the grass.
As we touch the flames we are into self-consciousness,
and we believe that what we feel is ours,
and we cling to it
but hose has already slipped further.

Look at life itself,
not on the outer shape.
Young people’s life-saturated
intense filled with life.
Old bodies are living matte
life-rays with more brilliance in them.
But consciousness is lit regardless of age.